What IF you could SAVE one life? It’s worth it! That’s why I BLOG for rescue!

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Entering the Bat Cave” (for faith-based writers)
Do you ever feel discouraged about how to enter the enormous gap between human trafficking and life in the suburbs? Exodus Road staffer, Kelley J. Leigh, is an ordinary middle-aged mom to four sons and recently wrote an article over at Burnside Writers Collective about the paralyzation we ‘regular’ people feel about what to do when it comes to sex trade. She describes her friendship with the founders of The Exodus Road candidly:

“ … frankly, having social justice superheroes as friends comes with issues; like, the constant nagging feeling that I am in reality, a total social justice slacker — like Lois Lane standing outside the empty telephone booth wondering where Superman went.”

But she offers us an accessible way to begin our own journey into social justice:

I decided it doesn’t matter who gets to be Batman or who is Alfred. We are all in this together.

My former social justice slackitude stemmed from my belief in super heroes. “Those people” do this stuff, not me. “I’ll just leave them to their supernatural business and check in on them every once in awhile.” However, I now see them simply as ordinary people who have followed God, one harrowing step at a time. They didn’t start out as superheroes. Back alley brothels and hidden cameras only entered the story after a long series of small choices stepped them toward the bat cave. It’s the same for all of us. After the smallest pause and question, “What now?” What Next?” is always an invitation. It’s a Jesus invitation. “Follow me.” Steps which obediently follow inevitably lead us to love God or love people in powerful and unimaginable ways.

And what does the LORD require of you?

To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. – Micah 6:8

My friends’ journey to empower rescue started out as a tangled ball of wire, unwound one turn at a time, until it stretched around the globe. I have been in a similar tangle, wondering what to do next. I don’t get to fly to the places where children are freed, but I do get to support people who unlock the prisons. And I can’t speak to US diplomats about prosecution and legislation, but I can write for change. I can redirect my weekly “skinny cinnamon dolce latte” money to the purchase of needed investigative equipment. It starts in the little things toward God’s heart.

One turn at a time. One seed of holy unrest, watered. One humble step. One choice to say “Yes” to the One true God who has a heart to rescue us all, one soul at a time.

Start small. Water the seed. Let it grow.

Be a hero in this larger story.

Join the rescue.

Kelley J. Leigh lives in a quirky little mountain town in Colorado. At mid-life she decided to leave behind full-time marketing and consulting work to focus on writing. The rest of her time goes to her husband, four sons, and the recovery of lost car keys. Someday she hopes to own an old scooter and embarrass her sons by wearing the very dorky helmet around town. Read the rest of the article, HERE.

Join in the fight for freedom!! at http://www.theexodusroad.com

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AFTER a SNARKY comment I’m tempted straight tempted! #FMF

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It’s Friday!!! One of my favorite days because a gifted group of women gather to write for 5 minutes on one word. Thank you Lisa Jo Baker (wwwlisajobaker.com) for encouraging us to write with reckless abandon.

Today’s word is AFTER!

You know those comments, the ones that start out sugary sweet and then STING your heart? They blindside you.  Words spoken by a person that you have some sort of emotional attachment to. Words spoken AFTER an incident (that you’ve probably forgotten about but the person speaking has held on tight to for days). It’s in those AFTER moments that I’m tempted to let my tongue tell the person some TRUTH (my TWISTED version of the TRUTH).  AFTER all, this girl just needs to know.. “How it REALLY is!”  Thankfully, God is holding my feet to the fire and making me work through this passive aggressive communication style that we women are especially skilled at.

Here’s what I’m learning: 

  • Don’t take comments personally (we all have issues). 
  • If I’m hurt process it with God before I process it with the person or anyone else.
  • Instead of preparing my defense and waiting for another opportunity to sling words at person, I need to pray. Pray for the person and pray for myself. Because I can relate to the word slinger.  I’ve spit out the sugary sweet words coated in anger and I’ve been the recipient.
  • Strive to please God not people. People will NEVER be satisfied and the devil will make sure this is the case if you are a people pleaser.

READ Proverbs just do it! And AFTER you’ve read Proverbs, stop back and share how you’ve been changed. Words matter ladies. Praying that OUR words will count for GOOD for Him!

Hush..it’s MY turn to talk about alcohol and the church!

To drink or not to drink? There are over 247 verses about alcohol in the bible. Some verses speak to the use of alcohol in celebrations. In fact, the first miracle Jesus performed was at a wedding when he turned water into wine. Other verses warn us not to be drunk with wine as we could lose our testimony. What I love about God is He knew our hearts before He created us. He knew if He made all the rules for life black and white that we would be tempted to take those rules and twist them into idols. That we’d make pretty gold chains out of His rules and be tempted to tie them tightly around the necks of friends/family members that we thought were not behaving godly.

What if…God desires something more from us than simply following certain rules? Maybe God craves a moment by moment relationship with us. He wants us to be utterly dependent upon Him. So what does that look like in today’s world? To know how God wants YOU to handle the issue of alcohol, you’ve got to spend time with Him.

My family struggles with addictions issues. I’ve learned to rely on God regarding my use of alcohol. I’ve had seasons in which I did not consume any alcohol because I sensed the Lord telling me I was too vulnerable and alcohol would be destructive. There have been seasons when I have felt peaceful to enjoy a glass of wine with friends but I’m always aware that for me there has to be a limit. I can not consume alcohol daily because it’s too risky for me.

When I’m with friends and there is an opportunity to consume alcohol, I’m reminded of this verse:

Colossians 4: 5-6 “Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.

Praying that each of you that read this today, will spend some time with God exploring the use of alcohol and allowing Him to guide you.

HUSH..Today we ARE talking about ALCOHOL! Guest post by Jennifer Schwickerath

HUSH–alcohol

When I was growing up, we didn’t have alcohol in the house. Why? I don’t know honestly. The church that I attended most of my school years implied that drinking alcohol was bad. Then I became an adult and had to think for myself and form my own opinions based on scripture. So here are some scriptures that I think are helpful:

  • Ephesians 5:18 “Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit,”~~here, it is clear to not get drunk. It does not say do not drink, but if you can’t stop drinking before drunkenness hits, then you shouldn’t drink at all. Self-control. I also believe this includes that “buzz” that people like to have.
  • 1 Corinthians 6:12 ‘You say, “I am allowed to do anything”—but not everything is good for you. And even though “I am allowed to do anything,” I must not become a slave to anything.’~~ I think if you have an addiction, it controls you, and that can be more than alcohol. This can include eating, shopping, entertainment, etc. When you have an addiction, it owns you, runs your life. 2 Peter 2:19b says “For you are a slave to whatever controls you.”
  • 1 Corinthians 8:9 “But you must be careful so that your freedom does not cause others with a weaker conscience to stumble.”~~ If you know  someone who struggles with alcohol, then don’t drink it in front of them. If you do not have a problem drinking alcohol, but you know someone is offended by it, no matter the reason, then don’t drink it. If you do peer pressure someone into drinking it who doesn’t believe it is right, and they do, BOTH of you have sinned. We see that in 1Corinthians 8:12 “And when you sin against other believers by encouraging them to do something they believe is wrong, you are sinning against Christ.”

My opinion–if you HAVE to have it~~ you probably have a problem. If there are others around you who can’t control their alcohol intake, and you don’t care and drink it anyway–you are acting out of selfishness instead of love and respect.

An example from my life~~ I know someone who gets drunk, says she doesn’t, but her actions and way of talking say otherwise. This same person  proclaims Christianity. I found this quote:

“I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ.” Gandhi

Now, if we are honest, this quote has applied to ALL Christians at some point in their lives, and I INCLUDE MYSELF.  Anytime we go against God’s will, we are unlike Christ. Don’t let alcohol ruin your witness for Jesus. Don’t let alcohol cause anyone else to feel uncomfortable.

Be blessed:)

Jennifer Schwickerath

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I became a wife in 2002 and a mom in 2010. In between that time, I became an x-ray tech. I love all of it, but my main focus is at home. I love to encourage others and love to be needed. I also LOVE the beach!!!! Be blessed🙂

HuSH…Today we ARE talking about Sex and the Church! Guest Post by Aaron Smith

We Christians tend to have an unhealthy relationship with virginity.

Honestly, our whole view of sex over all seems to be more influenced by Gnosticism, Victorian era puritanism, moralism, and patriarchy rather than Jesus and the Bible. But specifically when it comes to the concept of virginity we seem to have hand crafted an ethos and actions that might look more like a golden calf than Jesus. The ideas of saving yourself for marriage, purity, and sexual experience have (become in practice) a litmus test by which we discover the value of the people in our congregations.

Recently, this question of “Does Christianity idolize virginity?” has been addressed by some grace filled voices. Sarah Bessey‘s raw post “I am Damaged Goods”, followed by Rachel Held Evens‘ straightforward question “Do Christians Idolize Virginity“. A couple of my friends each had some excellent additions to the conversation: Arleen Spenceley chimes in with a Catholic response to“Do Christians Idolize Virginity” and Alastair Roberts points us towards redemption with “Virginity and the Gospel” (an absolute must read for this topic).

The overarching agreement from each of these writers is this: a person’s value and worth is not dependent (in whole or in part) on their sexual experiences and history. A person is valuable because they are human, and this is the very reason Jesus redeems our histories and gives us all an unbound future. As much as I agree with this (and I do with every fiber of my being), there is something else that must be addressed. Inherent in our church vocabulary about virginity and sexual ethics is a crass, unholy sexism.

To put it in plain terms, Christians need to stop treating women’s sexual experience as something shameful while holding men to a different standard.

I am a white, middle class, Christian male. I am writing from a place of privilege. See, I have never been shamed for my sexual behavior. I have never been told that I am used up, that I have given away my treasure (value), that I am tained before God due to my sexual history.

Why not?

It’s not as if I have been the poster child for the “True Love Waits” campaigns. Here’s the honest truth: I have never been in a relationship that wasn’t overly physical. This isn’t just something that happened “that one time”.  My entire dating career was marked by regrets, boundary pushing, broken hearts, and an earned reputation.  While there are a multitude of reasons for this, at the end of the day it was me engaging in acts that were deemed by the church to be impure and improper for outside of marriage.

Yet, I was not shamed.

Yes, I was chastised. yes I was looked down upon, but I was not shamed the way the girls in relationships with me were. It may not have been the church as a whole that pointed fingers and  clucked tongues, but it doesn’t take an entire church congregation to cause wounds. At the end of my time dating in church, the picture that was painted was this: I had spread myself around, failing to be strong. However, each of the girls had now been used up, tainted, no longer possessing prime desirability because they had been used.

I admit I am speaking in retrospect. It could be that this isn’t how things actually were. I pray they weren’t/aren’t. However… I am also speaking as someone who has grown up in the hallowed halls of church culture. I was raised since the cradle to sit in those pews, to go to bible studies, to aspire to the pulpit. I signed the purity card before it was fashionable to get a ring. As a lifetimer in the church, I was imbued with this picture of virginity. I might not have remained pure and strong  but I wasn’t the one who was used up. I had spread myself around, given something of my self to the girls I fooled around with, but they were the ones who had lost their purity.

I was led to believe (by the church culture) that women were the temptress. Given over to their sin, every woman would want to commit affairs with me, eager to snag me and control me as their man trophy. I needed to look out for a woman who was given to God, one who was pure, one who was unsullied by the Jezebel spirit that sought to lead all men astray. The women had better keep her breasts locked up tight and covered with a tarp, lest she tempt me and I fall to her temptress ways. Basically, I was told that as a men I am the mercy of women’s sexuality. Too much skin, and I would transform into a sex hulk who couldn’t listen to the voice of God. But I wasn’t used up.

If a girl lost her pure standing in the church, it was over. She was the harlot, the whore. She was the example that you told the younger kids about. “You don’t want to end up giving away your virtue like she did do you? Put on this purity ring and this sweatshirt. It’s the only way the lust of men won’t be awakened.” I saw many girls leave church because they were nothing more than an example of what not to do.

This double standard is built into the usual ways we talk about sex in church. Sex has been elevated to a spiritual thing, as if the act of coitus is somehow bound up with a mystic experience of ecstatic union with another soul as you and your mate are joined with the divine. At least that’s how I was made to feel about it. Sex was never spoken of as an enjoyable physical action; it was always primarily a spiritual thing. Virginity was something sacred, something holy, and giving your virginity to someone was the epic even of your life. Finally, you would know wholeness and be joined with your soul mate forever.

If a man loses his virginity  it is a moment of weakness. If a women loses her virginity, she loses the spiritual gift she had to give her soul-mate.

This  a shameful way to treat the complexity of human sexuality. Too long, we in the church have been immature in our talk about sex and human sexuality. We have over spiritualized the physical act of sex and orgasm, and vilified sexuality as leading to nothing but lustful sin. In the process, we have also told women that their actions are not the same as the actions of the boys. Women are told to be responsible for the purity of the man: don’t tempt, don’t provoke, don’t be overly feminine lest you cause a man to  lust and he stumbles. Obviously, men are nothing more than beasts… and women are forced to not only live in fear of corrupting  the soul of a man, but if/when physical lines are crossed the woman is the one whose reputation suffers. She is the one used up, no good, something to now be discarded.

When did we come to this? When did the people of God (the people who are learning to live and love like Jesus) when did we fall so far into fear of being human that we will step on our women, shame them for actions that we give men a slap on the wrist. There isn’t a quick answer to wrap all this up. Sexuality and identity are complex things because we are complex creatures. We need to take this seriously though. Damage has been done to several generations. Is this going to be the church, the faith, we pass on? I refuse to pass this on to my son. He is allowed to grow up in the complexity of his identity and sexuality. He is not allowed to shame women for their sexual history. If and when he gets physical with a girl, he will know more responsibility and love than I was ever taught; he will know that she is his equal.

Now that faith has come we are no longer under a slave looking after us; for all of you are the children of God, through faith, in Christ Jesus, since every one of you that has been baptized has been clothed in Christ. There can be neither Jew nor Greek, there can be neither slave nor freeman, there can be neither male nor female… for you are all one in Christ Jesus… If anyone is in Christ: NEW CREATION!! 

Galatians 3.25-28; 2 Corinthians 5.17 

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Husband, father, believer, writer, nerd, coffee chugger.  Just your typical Jesus obsessed, non-religious, question everything, artsy fartsy, theological, poet punk.
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What makes you feel comfortable and “at home?”

Have you ever walked into a home and felt immediate peace? Your body relaxes and you let out a deep breath. You take off your dirty shoes, unshamed that your socks have holes. You hang your coat on the hook and realize in this PLACE all of you will be accepted. As I read God’s Whisper Manifesto, I couldn’t help but be jealous for the kind of community Andi Cumbo described. Because, the PLACE I feel most comfortable and “at home” is the PLACE I can be myself (unfiltered).

Each time we open the door to our home, we are gifted with the opportunity to shower the individual(s) with His love.  Do you grab hold of that opportunity or do you waste it trying to make sure your home “appears” put together? Are you so exhausted from preparing for your guests that you honestly have no desire to engage in more than superficial converstaion? Are you looking at your watch meticulously planning each interaction in hopes of serving, dinner, desert and coffee on time? If the walls could speak in your home, would they utter words of encouragement or words of condemnation? What if there’s MORE to hospitality than simply creating the perfect ambiance? What if the most important prep work needed is YOUR heart?

The homes I love to visit are filled with warmth. There are no hidden expectations. Converstaions are free from judgement. Each person is given the time to tell their story and the storyteller knows that his words are valued, because those who listen engage the storyteller in meaningful dialogue. There’s no fear that intimacies shared will be gossiped about later because it’s evident that relationships are more important than idle chit chat about someone not present.

God’s Whisper Manifesto: The Makings of a Dream is a beautiful read. Allow yourself to dream along with Andi, about a community that can change lives. God’s Whisper Manifesto is available for purchase on amazon.com or barnesandnobile.com

AND I’m giving away a copy today. Leave a comment below and a winner will be drawn randomly tomorrow morning!!

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HUSH….Today we ARE talking about SEX! Guest post by Matt Schwickerath

One Man, One Woman

From the beginning, sex was meant to be between one man and one woman. Genesis 2:24 says “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” (NLT) It does not refer to a man joining to many women, it says to join to one woman. Although there are places in the Bible where men have multiple wives, several times it shows that having multiple wives causes trouble:

  • Genesis 29-30 tells how Rachel and Leah vied for Jacob’s love.
  • 1 Samuel 1 tells about the rivalry between the two wives of Elkanah.
  • Deuteronomy 17:17a says that “The king must not take many wives for himself, because they will turn his heart away from the LORD.”

Before marriage, can you violate this principle of one man, one woman? Yes, even before marriage a man can fall so that he is not pure when he gets married. I struggled with pornography before I got married. I knew what I was doing was wrong and I told myself I would stop, but I did it again and again. I never physically had sex with a woman before marriage, but visually and mentally I did. By not staying pure before marriage I was committing adultery against my future wife. The only thing that was able to get me to stop was when I started dating Jen, the woman who is now my wife. She gave me the motivation to not look at porn. I didn’t want to bring this sin into our relationship. By the grace of God I was forgiven for this transgression — both by God and by my wife.

To those who think that only physical actions are sin, let me point you to the words of Job and Jesus. Job says in Job 31:1 “I have made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman” and in 31:11 he says “For lust is a shameful sin, a crime that should be punished”. Jesus says in Matthew 5:28 “…anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart”. This is not hyperbole because Jesus understood that the battleground begins in the mind. By letting Satan have a foothold on your mind, it greatly increases the possibility of sinning physically.

Even after you are married you can violate this principle one man, one woman. After I was married, I stayed free from porn for 5 years. Then I started looking at Victoria’s Secret models. I told myself since the women were not naked, that I was not looking at porn. But, that was not true — I was lusting after those women just as much as I lusted after the naked women I looked at before I was married. I was also not looking away when women on TV or in a movie was dressed provocatively (had a low-cut blouse or bare stomach). To women who might not understand, men are very visual when it comes to sex. We derive our pleasure largely out of what we see. We also enjoy the other parts of sex, but visual stimulation is huge for us. That is why even looking at other women in a lustful manner is adultery for a man. I was violating the principle of one man, one woman with the porn I was looking at.

One day when my wife and I had an argument over something else entirely, she asked me if I had anything else to tell her. I realized that what I had been doing was wrong and confessed my sin to my wife. She came close to leaving me over it because I had cheated on her and kept it a secret. I wanted to do whatever I needed to do to clean up my life, get back on track with God and back together with my wife. I made an appointment to see our pastor to talk about it. He gave me several good pieces of advice, but the best thing he did was point me to the book Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn (http://www.christianbook.com/battle-workbook-winning-sexual-temptation-victory/stephen-arterburn/9780307457974/pd/457974?event=CF). This book taught me several lessons:

  • How to bounce my eyes away when I see a woman who can cause me to be tempted. For example, a woman showing a lot of cleavage is definitely a temptation. But sometimes even a woman who is fully covered from head-to-toe can be a temptation.
  • It also was a tool that the Holy Spirit used to teach me to avoid even more places where I knew I would have problems, like Hooters and Twisted Kilt. I never went to those places before the book, but after reading it I knew that I had to avoid them like the plague.
  • I learned to take my thoughts captive (2 Corinthians 10:5). The battle begins in the mind. It is not just enough to avoid looking at women who are a temptation if I am still dwelling on them long after I see them.
  • The unintentional look or thought is temptation, the intentional or repeated look is sin.

As the title implies, I strongly feel that every single man should read this book because every single man struggles with these temptations. But, remember that even when we fall, there is grace to pick back up. God and my wife both extended grace to me.

By having eyes only for my wife, I am not causing competition in my mind between my wife and anyone else. She is my one and only definition of beauty. This makes our intimacy that much deeper and more special. I need to be the only husband for her and she needs to be the only wife for me. That is what God intended — and this is one of the ways I can serve God and one of the ways I can show my wife I love her.

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Matt is a Computer Programmer by trade. But, first he is a follower of Christ, a husband and a dad. When he has down time he enjoys reading Science Fiction and playing video games (when football isn’t on). Yes, he and his wife are Beauty and the Geek.

You can find him on Twitter @qelan

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Hush..It’s MY turn to talk about SEX and the church!

When you hear the word SEX, what’s your emotional response? Joy? Shame? Embarrassment? Women are slammed with mixed messages about SEX in the media daily. Super Stars are taught to “bare all and tell all.” “Good church girls” are taught to NEVER show skin, because SHHH…they COULD make a young man SIN. It’s tragic that SEX has become a dirty little word especially among christian women. It’s time we break down some barriers sweet ladies and start chatting about one of the FIRST gifts God gave man and woman (Genesis 1). Are you ready? Let’s do this!

How did you learn about sex? My “sex education” occurred outside the walls of church. My parents talked openly with me about SEX. They engaged me in discussions about the physical, emotional and spiritual aspects of SEX.

PHYSICAL: Sex is consensual; it is NOT a forceful act. Sex may result in pregnancy or a sexually transmitted diseases.

EMOTIONALLY: Sex is emotional. SEX outside of marriage can cause anxiety, depression and stress. SEX is an act of deep love.

SPIRITUALLY: Our actions impact our relationship with God. God desires that our Love for Him constrain us (2 Corinthians 5:14). When we make decisions out of LOVE for Christ we offer our actions as offerings to God.

“I got the whole DON’T have SEX before marriage thing down but what I am suppose to do on my wedding night? Have sex…right?,” asked the soon to be married woman. (INSERT SILENT SHRIEK). As Oprah would say, that was my, “Ah ha,” moment. Right then and there I was confronted with my own feelings about SEX. I was tempted to swiftly move the conversation to a different topic, but I felt God asking me to be REAL honest about SEX (not in a dirty way). This was His opportunity to shed some glorious light on a TABOO subject. So, I said a little prayer and bravely confronted my fear. I talked about SEX with this soon to be married woman and the rest of the ladies scattered around my living room that night. It was one of the most AMAZING conversations. Married women shared the joys of SEX and the importance of making SEX a priority in marriage (even when you are tired…can I get an AMEN?) Single women confessed how difficult it is to keep saying NO to sex when you are in a longterm relationship. There were lots of giggles about SEX and even a discussion about where to buy lingerie.

Sex is an easy topic for Churches and Christians to mess up! So what can we do to break the cycle?

Talk to our children about SEX. Teach them that SEX is an AMAZING gift from God for married people. Teach them to follow God and build a personal relationship with Him. Help them understand that God desires a willing heart to follow Him; God doesn’t rejoice in rule followers or law keepers (making a purity promise to please youth leaders or parents doesn’t please God). Help them understand that sexual sin can happen BUT there is NOTHING too BIG for GOD to handle. Teach them HOW to work through sexual sins WITH God.

Let’s rejoice in the opportunity to have SEX because GOD has gifted SEX to us! My prayer for each reader is that you enjoy SEX with your spouse. GOD WANTS YOU TO HAVE BIG SEX go on, DO it!

HUSH..Today we ARE talking about SEX! Guest post by Jennifer Schwickerath

HUSH–sex

This should be fun. I mean it. There is a lot of taboo in church circles about sex, and I don’t get it. I think it should be talked about appropriately and without being disgusting, degrading, or embarrassing. There isn’t a lot of talk about it in church–for adults. I don’t think there should be shame or judgement when talking about sex. God talked about sex,  (Proverbs 5:18-20, 1Corinthians 7:3-4 just to name a few), so why shouldn’t Christians?

When I was in youth group–I was sick of hearing about it. They told us not to have sex until we were married. I remember being told how good it felt, but don’t do it. I.am.not.kidding. I agreed that sex is to be saved for marriage, and I vowed to wait. The problem with this approach is that once I was married, it still felt wrong/awkward/lost. You are on your own and good luck figuring it out. What helped me was having a friend who was recently married and I could ask her ANY question in confidence. Bless her.

I remember when a popular lingerie store opened in our mall. Oh.my. Looking back it was funny to see how people reacted. Not to the posters or the models, but to what they sold. I mean really? Women were feeling guilty shopping there. Why the guilt? Unless you are shopping for someone other than your husband or you think you can’t afford it,  I don’t get the guilt. I think wives (and that includes Christians) should want to dress for their husbands and think about their husbands when picking out lingerie. Men are visual. You need to let your husbands see you~~ ALL OF YOU. Wives, this is one of the ways we can be as Proverbs 5:18a says to be a blessing to your husband. I think sharing intimacy with my husband is beautiful and awesome and I believe that is what God wants it to be. Sometimes, it take work. You know what? It is worth the work. I am a better wife, mom, and all around person. Why? Sex makes me happy.

So, in my humle opinion, why should sex be talked about? Well, if you talk about marriage, sex should be discussed since it was made for marriage. There is also a responsibility that comes with sex. A couple examples:

  • Men are visual and that alone is not sin. It also isn’t an excuse to fall into temptation. Men need to look away when tempted to look at a woman who isn’t his wife. Don’t blame your genes and don’t blame God for temptation or the man’s sex drive. 1Corinthians 10:13 says He will help you when tempted.
  • Wives~~ men are visual and we have a responsibility. Show off for your husband and nobody else. Be modest when you dress outside of the bedroom. I don’t mean frumpy, but don’t purposely cause another man to be tempted. Having said that, if dressed modestly and men are still tempted, NOT YOUR FAULT.

I think the church should be a safe place to talk about sex. So let’s stop blushing and start talking.

Be blessed:)

 Jennifer Schwickerath

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I became a wife in 2002 and a mom in 2010. In between that time, I became an x-ray tech. I love all of it, but my main focus is at home. I love to encourage others and love to be needed. I also LOVE the beach!!!! Be blessed🙂

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